Love for Dummies

The best time to fall in love is when you are in college, it is comfortable, even exciting. I wish I should have flirted more, asked her out, had some courage. But I didn't, times were different for me then. The point I am trying to make is - it is always better to fall in love, get your heart broken, move on, and fall in love again. You evolve as a person. In college, love costs nothing but courage. Later in life, it starts asking for timing, money, emotional maturity, geography, family approval, and patience.

One should take time out for love, so that in future you can get married, have children and be a beacon of hope and optimism in humanity. Skin in the game, macha.

Why am I being practical about love? Because there is a variable of practicality in love. Your love won't last if you are not practical about it. "Oh you are in love with a person in the Western hemisphere and you are in Eastern hemisphere, buddy you are being catfished"

But one also has to consider that whenever one falls in love all rationality goes out of the window. You just want to sit there and look at the person you are in love with and talk about cute things. But why? Why does a person become a baby when they are in love? Chemicals in brain, is my assumption.

One should fall in love just for the sake of experience, love, not infatuation. Humans don't always love unconditionally, there is always a breaking point. Humans are not dogs, or pets. So there is practicality and rationality involved in love. Because everyone has their own breaking point, and having a breaking point means you have thought about it and are practical about the possibility that worse might happen. Humans are cautious and have their best interests in their mind.

So what to do when you are in love? First, get a life insurance policy and have your parents as beneficiary, get a term insurance policy and have your parents as beneficiary, get health insurance for you and your parents, these are like basic necessities for a man in this age. Love is not recognised in the legal language, so there can be no contracts. Anyway, coming back to love.

You have to make concessions in love, you have to compromise in love. You and your partner might not like the same genre of movies, music or plays. You might not like the same food, you might not like your partner's new perfume. But do you tell them that? Personal preference fo shure.

When I was in love, there were days I attended classes not for attendance, not for learning, but to see whether she had come. If she was absent, the campus somehow looked less colourful. It was fun. Who ever liked sitting in lectures in 45 degree heat. Could have had an ice cream together but well, lost chances. When you are in love then you are loud and want to make your presence know, like an animal, carnivore, animals do that you know. Peacocks. I remember standing in the canteen behind her while she ordered a tea, I wanted to stand there for some more time but turns out tea gets served fast. She knew I was there. Wow sounds stalky. I am a good boi. Trust me.

Anyway, I am not here to cry about my failures. I am here to talk about love, which I have been talking about in the above paragraphs. But maybe I want to talk more. Ah, there is no masala here, why would you be entertained? Okay, I will tell a short story or a fact or something.

All my crushes, from high school to college, with whom I never talked with, are in foreign countries. The important thing is the distinction - crushes I never pursued, are all in foreign countries now.

Nice, right? If I have a crush on you and I have never talked with you then there is a good possibility that you will settle in a foreign country, how cool is that?

I don't like the modern dating landscape of apps, swipes, and all that. It just seems artificial and too prone to gaming. If you are into it, then maybe you are just doing it for the love of the game. There should be an end goal, right? Maybe you have fun and then what? Till what time you can keep having fun? You are gonna get old. Figure out your priorities. Label your relationships. Stop being a pussy. Commit. Get your heart broken, sulk in your bedroom and cry while you are updating your passbook at the bank, break into a sob when you are at the airport security check line, start crying while you are attending an auspicious function.

Kind of kidding.

The modern dating idea has me in splits, I don't feel confident about the future, a lot of nihilism has creeped into the psyche of young people. I am also young, but I have hope, I have unrealised potential, I have yet to earn millions of dollars by writing, I am yet to write a bestseller book, I am yet to get married, I am yet to have kids, I am yet to go to a strip club. So I have hope, because there are things I want to achieve. Wait, I just went on a different branch - back to love and its condiments.

Marriage is a side effect of love - but marriage needs to be a well thought out decision, marrying a broke boy is for western societies, in India if you broke, you alone. Nobody likes a broke boy.

You can love a lot of people at the same time, I don't know your preferences but I am a monogamy guy. It is the best, committing to a person for all your life, seems like a fun and a challenging thing. Have you ever run behind a plane while your crush is sitting in it and leaving the country? Me neither. Airports are high security areas, if you are running on a runaway, you about to go to jail or be shot by airport security, I wouldn't recommend that. But you need to chase love, it is difficult, you have to be relentless, and hopeful. Love does break the chain of nihilism. Humans need to fall in love more and not get divided by political ideas. A polarised society is never good for a specie's existence.

I am looking to get married, so if you are also looking to get married, then you can contact me, or if you have referrals then also lemme know. I can send my matrimony biodata.